But sex is meant to express the true core of human sexuality, right? Human sexuality goes beyond our bodies. Therefore, sex must encapsulate more than a physicality.
So what in the fuck is sex? Well, what in the fuck is the core of human sexuality? I think all humans experience a drive toward intimate relations, a drive to build satisfying & constructive relationships.
As such, I think any interaction that better informs us of how we experience intimate relations is sexual contact. An interaction that helps us better understand our satisfying & constructive relations is sex. Sex is not some ball of fire biting at our heels. It is a part of us, just like our senses or skin.
Well that’s terrifying, but it transforms my life in magical ways. I’ve had so many relationships that weren’t physical, but were still fraught with sexual contact. It’s gotten to the point where becoming physical with a person I’m falling in love with is too much for me to handle.
The thing is, sexual contact does not need a conscious event or a positive outlook. Some of us prefer to engage with intimate relations on a subconscious level, or to shrink from them. A conscious physical desire is not an integral ingredient of sex, nor does it need to be.
I think that’s how I experience romance, for now anyway.
I do think sexuality is a universal, a part of all our lives. Some are repulsed by sex, yet we all still desire a drive toward satisfying & constructive relationships. So sex has to be about that too. Otherwise, sexuality could not be a universal.